Marriage
Saturday, September 10, 2011 @ 4:28 PM

I understand there is a huge difference of marriage thoughts between people now and people in the older days.

I see the point is that, many steady couples want to get married because they love each other but they hold back for some reasons, money. Youngsters these days have to work hard themselves to get a better life for themselves and their future kids. Unlike the older days, people used to get married for being single for too long, for wanting to leave the family, for unexpected pregnancy etc. To what I know, older days are poorer than us, but they thought money can be put in the second place after marriage.


We are taught by this hasty city that we need almost everything to be done by money. So all of us are thinking of money first, then marriage. Ain't I one of those who think this way?




I see couples working hard, thinking that money must be more than sufficient before getting married. In fact, they are not officially married, but they are acting like they are already married. If careless, unexpected baby happens to come, they just get married and forget about money. Then that makes an awful name in the marriage, "shot-gun marriage". They still get married for the baby, for they actually wanted to be married to each other long ago. Isn't the baby a gift to tie them up? Money is so cheap.

I had my future path planned till 60 year old and had spoken a bit of my plan to Haw. It seems like both of us think the same -- money. I dare not plan a marriage age for us because I don't want money to be the reason stopping us or tying us up.



Plan it before our business start? Then where comes the money?
Plan it after the business? Then we marry because we had enough money? Our marriage is about money?

Not the urge, the strong feeling that "I want you to marry me because I love you!"

It becomes "It's time to get married, money ticked, business ticked, house ticked, car ticked, let's go. Put it on weekend because that's our only off days. We have our honeymoon at the end of the year or during chinese new year because it's a longer holiday."




Kills all the joy? Marriage becomes nothing but money? I don't know how many agreements or disagreements I am going to get for this thinking, but marriage should not be about just money. Do it when you love her/him, as long as you are earning good enough to raise the family. Don't wait for big money and all the ambitious thinking.