Marriage Wednesday, June 20, 2012 @ 7:17 PM
What makes a good marriage?
It is never easy for 2 individuals with different upbringing to live with each other. But when this man and woman decided to stay together, make a vow, wear the bands, they are in this together. This is "marriage".
I don't fear marriage even though my parents are divorced. It could be because my boyfriend makes me feel secure in terms of his loyalty and love for me. The stage for us both now is the "moulding stage", a stage where both try to meet each others' expectations, needs and wants. I give my boyfriend an A+ for his loyalty, but his credit in his career needs a lot of improvement. Fortunately, he is always willing to try for me, he promised to work hard for our future.
The urge to get married has died in my heart, I wanted it so badly just few months ago. I thought it is alright, things will get better, I just need to sacrifice a few more years of my youth to see my boyfriend's result, and my career result.
Until I met man who cheat when the wife works hard for the family, man who screams at his wife almost everyday when the wife works hard for the family.. I call those "useless men".
I also met man who stays in the marriage just for loyalty, and the wife abuses it. Then what else is love.
When 2 get together for too long, know each other too well, they tend to take each other for granted. Because he knows her reactions if he does that, she knows his answers if she says that.
Some reveal their true colours only after married, the wife never knew that the husband is such a lousy man, yet still hang on to the marriage, for the sake of kids, or loyalty, or just do not want to be alone.
I am getting a little scared of marriage now. I wish time could slow down.. I want a damn good career backup before thinking of marriage. It is never better to rely on others. But I think inside me is still crying for a proposal ring. Kneel before me, baby.
